The “Significance” of ones life, though clearly known to oneself on ones Death Bed, can be previewed by pausing to be there. Here one plans how to live well from this moment on. Most people are living a “Busy” life which they deem “significant”. Yet, this is an un-examined assumption, hoped to be true in their actual “Make-Do” lives. “Make Do”–a keystone for handling suddenly arising emergencies–is the worst when done in order to “go along to get along” with the Crowd. Hence, one blindly follows custom patterns rather than using ones thinking skills to be in charge and control of ones life. That is mental enslavement! Superseding even that is the shunning of fully developing ones Talent in exchange for meaningless or self-defeating consequences that take one far off track from ones Mission in life. Everyone was born with a Divinely assigned “ME/WE” Purpose for living on Earth. It continued as a Silent (Sacred) Dream—silent because it did not need to be exposed to ridicule. If one still pursues it, one will keep striving to be ones Highest (Divinity) Self as well as at least have sound intentions to better lives of others. Actual help pushes others lives towards success; or concerns “Being With” and/or “Doing For” the truly Needy—so as to lessen their problems, give them a lift, or provide comfort when nothing more beneficial is available. Yet, said Ancient Africans, because of being made in the Image of God—which means Unconditional Love—each human naturally possesses the Free Will to pursue ones Mission or wallow in other things. So, for most, awareness of their Sacred Dream gradually fades away around age 18 to 36 months of age—to be replaced by the illusion of wanting to be a professional ball player, or the like. If one is not headed to a Mission with every significant decision and daily performance, then one is doing much of the Pseudo-Significant.
The Retrospectoscope Approach is to look back on ones life through one end of the scope, before looking forward through the other. Step I is imagining oneself on ones death bed, considering what in ones life is most “Significant”–presently and for the future. It is not money! Rather, it will be something of Worth carrying a payload, like the Sun and its Rays–concerning things money cannot buy. Varied definitions of the word “Significant” include: in C14 English, ‘the meaning of something’ (force, energy); (1579), ‘full of meaning’; (1725), Consequence; and (1761), Importance. Subsequently, despite a broadening in scope, “Significant” retained the core ideas of being about the qualitative (or “worth”) and the quantitative (or things of “value”). The Theme of Significant has special relevance (‘meaning,’ ‘importance’) which is the Ultimate when on ones Death Bed. To arrive at this requires determining which of several possibilities is most outstanding, crucial, and carries the greatest payload force or effect because of being especially meaningful or excellent. Step II, in looking back over ones life, assess: (1) Where Am I?—and “What do I wish I had done with my life that I did not do, but was capable of doing?” What did I do with my life I wish I had not done? Answers may cause modifications of ones present lifestyle or “re-programming into the what is of Ultimate Significance by formulating plans inside ones Talent and Capabilities. Step III: one switches focus to the other end of the scope. It shows: “This is where I am and how do I need to change my life to reach my MVP (most valuable Performance/Program)?” To have a good probability of success, one must absolutely stop doing the self-destructive and the desired addictions which go nowhere—like all Flashing Light Gadgets and Social Media. Replace with total focus on the Necessary and the Important. (2) Where Am I Going? It ought to go in the flow of developing ones Talent and head to ones Mission. After deciding what it will take to achieve ones MVP, then lay out stepping stones to it. (3) How Am I going to get there?
It is struggling alone to arrive at ones Mission–doing all of what has to be done. (4) What Am I going to do once I get there? One now stands on ones tip-toes to reach up for the barely reachable highest hanging fruit on the tree of ones Mission, as dictated by ones Talent. Then find where there are the most people in need, through no fault of their own, and do the most good for them that will last over the longest period of time. Two “ME/WE” Mission points: It does not matter how hard ones Mission was to do–or how long it took–or what the cost. For those involved, ones gift product must be beneficial, lasting, available, rippling into ever greatness evolutions, and beautiful! jabaileymd.com; JABLifeSkills; Theievoice.com
Joseph A. Bailey II, MD, FACS