“TAKE CHARGE/CONTROL” TO AVOID HATE (21)

“TAKE CHARGE/CONTROL” TO AVOID HATE (21)

Despite countless justifications to hate all types of people, my boyhood wonderful all-Black community—which was “hurt-free”—taught me to make practical self-improvement use of every disharmonious experience. My first justification occurred upon attending the University of Michigan where I constantly faced Indifference and Hatred. Thereafter, during my education, medical training, and experiences inside all-White hostile communities, justifications kept mushrooming in frequency, in magnitudes of intensity, and in effects. These included continuous and varied personal attacks for no other reason than having entered the southern Whites’ controlled Orthopaedic Surgical specialty. This specialty choice was spurred by surgically helping treat wounded Vietnam War soldiers. An initial keystone decision for how to deal with White people’s “faceless” hatred was to make a Self-Declaration of giving my Word to not allow anybody to stop me from reaching my destination of becoming an Orthopaedic Surgeon. As a boy, I was convincingly taught to keep my word and do what I said I would do–no matter what—no matter how hard–and persist on that path to the end of time. Such was hard to hold myself in check during racism "earthquake" life moments. That also had to be done when White people would steal every one of my surgical inventions, physical therapy appliance creations, Dwarfism discoveries, Classifications, and other Orthopaedic Surgery contributions. My adjustment to the pain of these amoral acts of dishonorableness was to realize “that is who they are” + that is what they have historically always done. But, looking at the “big picture” reasons for my contributions being to help patients, spotlighted this was still being done, even though I was not given credit. 

A third justification pertained to choosing a super-specialty in Orthopaedic Surgery. Shortly after starting in my training program, I realized any contribution to enhancing medicine in the Cosmos would not come from, say, writing a book on hand surgery because there were many books on it. Besides, the "ole boy" system would not allow even my "earth-shaking" innovations to be accepted; or it would be stolen by them, claimed by them, and then they would accuse me of lying about what they stole from me. So, instead of getting angry, I accepted this with one of my favorite expressions: “That’s the way it is—and That is who they are!” To rise above this situation was to philosophically cope by focusing on either choosing “a road less traveled” or to “make my own road”. Such concerned dealing with things not popular in the "ole boy" system as, for instance, bony birth defects in general and Dwarfism in particular. To people afflicted with these problems, any assistance or new ways of management are of great significance to them. So, popularity has nothing to do with what is important. Fourth, from friends’ observations, I learned certain publishers had converted my authored medical Texts into “e-books” and “kindle” without my permission and without paying me. Also, the 10 or so publishers (except for one) have failed to send my royalties. Two people told me my classic text on Dwarfisms is now selling for $350. I have not sued anybody for several reasons: Fifth, most important is my valuing the maintenance of a “Free Mind”—i.e. one not shackled with acquired emotions like hate, anger, frustrations. As a boy, I read what made a big impression me: “that for every minute of being unhappy means giving up 60 seconds that could be used to be happy”. Such still applies. Sixth, racists ‘kangaroo courts” stack the deck against justice for Colored Peoples—meaning all court and government laws are written to give unfair favors to the Supernatural cult and unfair disadvantages to those not like them. I have had a great deal of experience with all types of attorneys and know their unjust Supernatural cult approaches to doing business. Seventh, I learned as a boy not to get attached to Material “Value” things, for despite being useful, they are replaceable items. Instead, I focus to get things of “Worth” (intrinsic, infinite, and irreplaceable things of excellence). Yet, in proper portions, “Values”—which embrace both Worth and Value Things–are necessary for “Good Life Living.” 

Eighth is putting a time limit on natural but overwhelming angers that occasionally arise. At those times, I will rant and rave about all the terrible things I am feeling, sparing nothing. But after 30 seconds, I say: “Now, it is time to get back to being in charge and control of my life.” For really bad things, I write out completely all of my hostilities. jabaileymd.com; JABLifeSkills; Theievoice.com

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