Ancient Africans said humans are out of Selfhood control when they have a lifestyle of wrong thinking and believing to be a slave to their shackling Emotions. Since humans’ Earthly Purpose is to acquire Spiritual Power and Wisdom, this is done through maintaining consistent Peace during adversity. Such allows ones Judgments to embrace: (1) what are best benefits for the Highest Selves of “ME/WE” that have ever-spreading ripple effects over the longest period of time; (2) transcend wrong thinking, particularly of the Supernatural type; and (3) shed completely the necessity to be addicted to the Crowd. In carrying out any planned Right Life Living program, there are Pre-Action Judgments. Examples: gain insights into what could go wrong with what is planned or what consequences and results could happen as a result of the Effects. There can be no “not doing” of what has to be done for maintaining Integrity. Entering-Action Judgments for taking charge/controlinclude collecting evidence; penetrating all disguises; sifting conflicting statements; reconciling improbabilities; disentangling the pertinent from the non-pertinent; and self-cross-examining to discover “What part did I play?” In-Action Judgments start by carefully assessing ones motives to ensure all necessary measures expected to be executed will bring about a permanent life-change. This can be founded only on a thorough “Know Thyself” within the setting of having no shame, no self-criticism, no blame, no fault-finding. Action Progress Judgments: Step I: continually self-assess to determine if one is on point—if there a better way—if there is something needing to be researched. Step II: When bad happens, discover specifically what it is by seeing things exactly the way they are and are doing what they do and why. Step III: How solid and complete is your information gathering? Have you extracted all the lessons out of what is done by the ignorant, the foolish, the stupid, con-artists, or the wicked? Have you shut down opportunities by showing Bad Manners by not responding to gifts of advice you have been given by people who are able to help you further? If so, they may simply not give you anything else and thus you will never know the advantages you could have had by showing mannerly responses.
There are no acceptable excuses for bad manners or believing you have entitlement. Step IV involves planning for the “What ifs” emergencies or the sudden disruptions that lead to discarding plans or doing alterations on Plan A. Step V: do all that is required in time, energy, effort, research, and reflection needed for “regrouping” from Set-Backs. Such is needed to gather all ingredients for being creative in “getting around, under, over, or through specific losses, lacks, or obstructions which just occurred as well as those likely to happen to family”. If the obstacle is too big–if new evidence indicates a better, easier, faster, effective, efficient, more productive way, then switch to an up-dated Plan B. If evilness or possible harm to others is suddenly discovered in the plan, shed it, regroup, and restart to a better goal. There is absolutely no point in dealing with what is useless or over which one has no control. Step VI: Each and every part in the process is to undergo the Box Concept—i.e. the careful study of a box’s inside/outside, every side, every angle, and top/bottom so as to see all of its aspects. Step VII: analyze all that was gathered and Assess its Worth and Value for what is beneficial/harmful.
Post-Action Judgments are studying carefully what all went wrong with what just happened or what consequences and results are likely to happen as a result of what just happened. Flaws cause looking at: “What part did I play in causing them?” Or, is the Happening problem about things “Too Much,” “Too Little,” not needed; Or, if overlooked knowable problems are from taking a short-cut or laziness? Get rid of the useless and fill in any gaps with whatever will work for the “ME/WE”. With Good results, study all details surrounding and within the happening so as to fashion plans for making the Good into the Excellent. Figure out how to make the Excellent Routine and thereafter always strive for Human Perfection—the type that gives you an “I did it!” or a “That’s it!” sense of Self-Pride. Still, ask “What skills do I need to make more happen?”— “Can I do anything about what enlarges ongoing “ME/WE” benefits? When success is achieved, it does not matter what other ways people think about your product. Most will be envious and say nothing–or down-grade it—or try to steal it. Accept as a lifestyle the daily standing a bit higher on tip-toes to reach the top hanging fruit.jabaileymd.com; JABLifeSkills; Theievoice.com