Like a Star in the Sky, humans are a vital part of the Cosmic Circle of Wholism and possess a “Drop” of Cosmic Force Powers. Hence, ones Pre-Birth Emotions/Intellect are a Ray of the Star’s Soul Sunshine–themselves Self-Lights. In African Tradition, they are the “What” and “Why” of all Decisions/Solutions for Right Life Living. Ones job is to cultivate them for the “Who, Which, Where, “How, and “When” preparations for “ME/WE” applications to such things as Compassion, Insights into Things of Worth, Dignity (doing what characterizes Humaneness) and Appreciation. Ones time, energy, effort, and research are to be given to create paths for Thriving, Talent development, a sense of Well-Being, and being Happy. Equally significant is doing “just Enough” Self-Protection and Self-Preservation Decision-Making and Problem-Solving to ensure Spiritual, Mental, and Physical Survival. All starts with gathering and instilling sound Human Ideals within ones Private Selfhood before attempting to apply them to fashioning success out of ones Public Selfhood or to helping others. Since there is a direct interpenetrating of all Cosmic Entities/all Cosmic Multi-systems with ones Private “Non-Self,” these are Personal Powers within ones in-most boundless Reality. Whenever “knocked down,” one draws on them for the strength to get up each time. To Take Charge and Control of these is to assume the necessary "Obligations" (the assignment to promise to abide by its rules); "Duties" (doing its tasks, regardless of having to give up advantages and/or take on disadvantages to do so—even if those tasks have never been seen or heard of before); and "Responsibility" (shouldering the consequences for anything not properly done or that is left undone but should have been done in accordance with ones obligations) in striving for Human Perfection in good and bad times.
Step I: “What is Blocking me from succeeding?” "Clinging to an Unreal Thing is done out of an unrealistic Fear that you are “not good enough”; that you will be Shamed; that you have let down the “ME/WE” for whom you are living your life and maybe cause a fear of abandonment, being left on ones own while feeling worthless. None of this is Real! No progress can be made until one deals with the Real. Step II: make the Self-Declaration of: “I am in Charge and Control of my life and all good/bad happenings are for beneficial Ultimate purposes.” Humans, born with these powers–from having a Spark of the Flame of God–mean there are no problems too great to be overcome. This constitutes Selfhood Greatness! Pause to see what it feels like. Step III: "Taking Charge/Control" immediately stops ones ever-increasing mental entanglements. Re-occurrences are halted by reading something Silly and Funny every time Anxiety pops up, for this helps keep one in Harmonious Balance. Step IV: “Re-Ordering” constructive actions draws on ones own experiences of: “since it did not kill me, it made me stronger because I’m still standing.” Similarly, African Sages said ones purpose in life is to fulfill the Divine Plan, no matter what is in the way. To do that, one uses losses, lacks, obstructions, and any other difficulties one has in life as tools to force out the divine powers within ones Selfhood so they can be cultivated. Step V: Invite ones Spiritual Entourage to be ones “Helping Hands”. They make available all one needs–at just the right time—and without one even knowing what to ask for or when to ask for it.
Step VI: until life is steady, give up all unnecessary things being done—e.g. television, Social Media. The resultant time gained is focused on the significant. That promotes Efficiency (done quickly without wasted time, energy, and effort) and Effectiveness (the desired done right or the effect that best satisfies the solution better than any alternative or is situationally practical). One can now best use Pre-Birth Emotions/Intellect to make high priority Choices, Decisions, or Solutions. Step VII: Substitute achieving a big success for daily multiple small successes. The resultant sense of Efficacyspurs one to say: “I got over these problems and can now take on more and bigger ones.” Step VIII: to get off the wrong Life Living track enables one to begin to Create, Enhance, or Maintain Harmony while Reducing, Preventing, and/or Defending against Disharmony. Such opens ones Soul Sunshine Powers of: Aliveness; Appreciation; Beauty; Compassion; Courage; Creativity, Curiosity; Dignity; Freedom; Gentleness; Goodness; Happiness; Honorableness, Humor; Human Perfection; Play; Personal Power; Well-Being. That is a Real display of Selfhood Greatness!!! jabaileymd.com; JABLifeSkills; Theievoice.com