Life living for any human involves the Necessary, the Important, and Desires—each concerning individualized Tasks (work to be done)—best in that order! How well any is done, that satisfies significant Task aspects, is placed on appropriate rungs of the Ladder of Competence. Competence’s quadrad components are the: Approach (the way a goal is reached); Method (how to do the job); Technique (how tools are used in the approach and method), and Manner (the different ways a technique can be handled). On the top rung of the Competent Ladder are those exhibiting Ancestor Appreciation + possess Private Self components of: Selfhood-Greatness (from being a Spark of God); Pre-Birth Emotions/Intellect; Self-Knowing–ones in-dwelling Cosmic Mind Intelligence “First Wisdom”; Self-Trust (Keeping ones Word since "The Word" itself is the Divine Presence, its power, and its manifestation); Self-Curiosity (driven by what is natural within oneself for expanding ones abilities, capabilities, and aptitude); Self-Respect (honoring ones in-born and earned self-worth and self-value traits); Self-Reliance (in charge and control of ones Selfhood, what one does, and the situation by knowing and using what is available). These stamp ultimate Infinity Cosmic Knowledge in ones Soul + provide ones Private Self with the "5Ss"—Safety, Security, Sureness (Self-Confidence), (Personal Power) Strength, and Stability. Emanating out of these components are ones Self-Efficacy—knowing “I can do whatever is Necessary and Important to my Talent in order to accomplish my Mission.” It displays as ones Public Self Components of Self-Respect, Self-Reliance, and Self-Empowerment (unlimited power from prior successes) in handling daily living problems.
Instantly, when tasks pop up, both sets of Soul Sunshine components drive an eagerness for one to take on increasingly bigger and more difficult challenges, even indarkness and stormy scenes of “Trials and Tribulations”. One who is self-trained in mental discipline/self-control resists all invitations to veer off coarse by Attractive Distractions. Instead, one continues “straight ahead” toward ones ultimate Human Ideal goal. Foundational to forming Self-Competence is to establish a Prioritized Order for doing tough tasks—having no likes/dislikes about what has to be done—and “just do it!” Start working on the Keystone (the top) problem so that its many satellite problems will automatically resolve themselves. Follow through and never “give up” because of overwhelming difficulties. Make at least a little bit of progress every day, even if “Too tired”–"not feeling like doing it"—or wanting to socialize. “Doing it only when I feel like it" is laziness. “Too busy” to do what "Needs to be" done is never the Truth. Since my tasks are my responsibility alone, if I did not do it —and do it right–then it will not get done right, or at all. As a boy, it was driven into my mind that if a job is worth doing, it must be done right, and ahead of schedule. Its partner statement for doing the job right is because it shows good character, demonstrates Integrity (meaning one is sound and complete); and imparts Self-Pride. Good Character only produces the very best of which it is capable. Both statements necessarily mean being self-motivated, Self-Reliant, and vowing to start the task right now and not stopping until it is completed. This mindset reflects confidence in ones own mental competence in “STRUGGLING ALONE” so as make, using present ingredients, the very best Work Product under present circumstances and with present skills. Such a scenario shields one from “coming down hard on oneself” for not having had a better result. Any flaws or poor results in the process contain lessons that must not be wasted, for to do so means they will always be repeated. By knowing one can get any one-of-a-kind extremely unique job done + knowing “I will learn necessary skills to match any challenges, even those never seen nor heard of before,” one always remains "Calm, Cool, and Collected".
Also, when eagerly helping people do their work, I always learn how to handle an entirely new set of problems. That increases my exposure to various types of problems; gives new insights; increases options for handling “Impossible” problems; and teaches Efficiency (done quickly) & Effectiveness (done right)—with urgency. For those desiring to be Experts, what others are doing or rejecting does not matter. From the ability to enter into ones in-most boundless light of Reality is to experience ones own true nature, with unlimited potential to achieve unrealized Realities. Living life by ones own standards of Competence imparts Self-Appreciation. jabaileymd.com; JABLifeSkills; Theievoice.com