Unconditional Love is the ultimate unifying force of life—and it has no competition. People who know this are likely to share the same System of Values—i.e. the same Philosophy of Life. By working together side-by-side as Help-Mates, serving to “check and balance” and support each other, they harmoniously flow in the same direction, at the same pace, and to the same goals. Just as a flower does not compete with the flower next to it but instead simply blooms, that is a model for showing each other mutual respect. Hence, in gift and duty exchanges, each mate appreciates that Qualities given by one equate to gifts of Quantities given by the other. Thus, one does not rate ones gifts as “better”. Their mutual sense of Belonging imparts a unity meaning of being in a significant Plan bigger than oneself. Significance is what carries out a Pattern of life and if it remains inside the Spiritual Elements—i.e. Unconditional Love, Truth, Reality, and the Natural–it is fulfilled in itself, by itself to satisfy its Purpose in life–as dance or music are self-complete. Hence, the “Non-Self” one shares with the other ensures all of their interchanges are in one piece and without divided differences. These demonstrations of “Oneness” Integrity are ingredients of a good relationship, perhaps as going as deep as “Soul-Mates”. Still, by neither mate needing to cling to anything, both remain Free.
But deeper still are “Buddies”. Without effort or even an awareness of it, they have the virtue of skill in living in Peace with each other. While working independently to achieve an interdependent goal, they remain Free enough not to need to impress anybody—yet live a life that matters to each and to others—are strong enough to stand alone—smart enough to know when help is needed–and assertive enough to know where to get “Right” help in order to use its “Right” parts the “Right way”. In spite of losses, lacks, and obstacles, their success includes not only what they got from each other but what they shared–not their degree of expertise but their Character–not by thinking alike but by thinking together–not what they possess but what they built—not their successes but their significance in ways that best work for the most people, over the longest period of time—not by being loving but by being lovable. Soul-Mates and Buddies “Feel” this way: “No matter what legacy work we choose, no matter how difficult or how long it takes, what does matter is that it was beneficial to others and beautiful like nothing else.” jabaileymd.com; JABLifeSkills; Theievoice.com