A human “Family” is a group of people related by blood (Genetics), by marriage, or by adoption—all bearing the same family name. Yet, as part of the family, that same person is unique but shares a Sameness which connects her/him to all other “Family” members. Family has always been the basic unit of African Tradition which symbolizes the Cosmic Organism orchestrated by the Cosmic Force, Sekhem. The point: African and Afrocentic families are to serve as a "Model" (C16 Italian ‘a small measure’) for the macrocosm of the Cosmic Circle of Wholism. This means being an approximate rendering of an original—matching its main features, but on a smaller and more manageable scale + demonstrating a connectedness with the Cosmic Circle, ones nuclear family, and ones Extended Family Kinship. “Extended” is a collective word for persons also related by blood (Genetics), marriage, adoption, and varying degrees of descent from a common Ancestor. A feature of Family Wholism is all real parts inside the Family circle have to be accounted for, because every part is significant—but in a quite different way—and all ought to work together. The Circle (the first known African religious symbol) represents the immortal and eternal part (absolute reality), as opposed to whatever is outside the Circle (e.g. the Supernatural cult) which represents the mortal and transient (illusion-matter). Afrocentric Philosophy refers to Wholism as a reality in which interconnectedness, interdependence, interrelatedness, and synthesis prevail in all human ideas, feelings, and acts. For example, elements such as the spiritual, the intellectual, the affective, and the physical are not only interdependent but are equal in sum and in parts (Oshodi p448). Early African philosophy used this Family Circle principle to explain that all God’s creatures started with God and would eventually return to God in the same purified state in which they were originally formed –the concept of a Circle of Cosmic Existence.
This means every African family member is to take on the appropriate obligations, duties, and responsibilities to do two things for the family Circle of Wholism: (1), create, enhance, maintain its harmony by being supportive and promotive; and (2) protect and defend it—particularly against all Supernatural philosophies of life and its relayed disharmony in the formal educational system, all media, and all institutions/people engaged in racism. The aim is to be “All for One and One for All.” This displays as Harmonious Qualities of exhibiting good relationships with and good behavior towards each fellow Afrocentric person. Such is done in order to ensure a prolonged relationship to each other by being attached to the single family center—i.e. the Theme of Unconditional Love. By these being Spiritual, means their Reality has no degrees, as contrasted with anything in the Material world. All family members, orchestrated by the mother and father operating with a “Sameness” in Values and a “Uniqueness” in methods, apply with Integrity: (1) bringing into realization a presently unrealized reality of the Spiritual Elements (Unconditional Love, Truth, Reality, and the Natural) in themselves and each family member in an ongoing basis; (2) to cover those, as yet, undeclared desires for Self-Improvement because they remain to be realized as a desire; and (3) to decide on what is best for each family member pertaining to whatever “For me” and “Against me” things that may arise at any time in the future. While Conflicts naturally arise, the family figures out how they can be resolved.
Suggestions are to: (1) deal with a conflict “as it is”; (2) fully Listen from beginning to end to hear all of what is being said—without planning a defense or thinking ahead of what is being said; (3) discern what is behind the position of those disagreeing; (4) discover underlying fears and concerns of those in the conflict; (5) have the calmest and wisest minds determine resolutions; (6) Find ‘common ground’ on what is agreed upon so as to begin multiple small successes as a way to get on a problem-solving path; and (7) progress towards the bigger conflicts with the idea of not trying to change the other’s mind but to have them connect, like inside the Interchange of Interlocking Rings. Also, have meals together, with Family Talks concerning seeds that evolve into an uplifting flower like: discuss building a prosperous lifestyle for oneself and ones family—how to live life to the fullest—ways to set free ones unrealized potential—steps to enter the unknown so as to make “ME/WE” discoveries, creations, and inventions. Such Living to benefit what is greater than oneself is in the setting of having “Silly Fun”. jabaileymd.com; JABLifeSkills; Theievoice.com